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Dating Above, and Below

When my DC friend D visited a couple of months ago, he happened to meet someone who I was then considering dating.

“Do you think he’s cute?” I asked.

“He’s alright,” he said.

I sighed, hearing my ambivalence validated. “He’s not as cute as me, though, huh.”

“No. But probably most guys you date aren’t going to be.”

“Why not?” I demanded, immediately grasping to tick off past interests who I thought every bit if not more attractive than myself.

“Well,” he explained, “some people don’t like to date people more attractive than they are.”

“Huh,” I said, pausing to consider the various ways in which my insecurities manifest in my love life and the fact that one might think this would be one of them. I would kind of think that this be one of them. But, strangely enough, I’m realizing–today–it’s not.

I suppose it happens that two people in a relationship are equally good-looking. But we all know that, when there’s an imbalance, it is generally the man who is less beautiful.

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