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On Past Relationships, In Present Ones

Remember that time when I wrote that I was trying to turn over a new leaf and take things more slowly when I met someone?

Yeah, that was a big lie. I mean, I didn’t think it was a big lie at the time. I honestly thought that being in contact with a guy I’d just met multiple times a day qualified as “going slow” because I didn’t yet know anything about his previous relationships.

Oh well. Baby steps, people.

More on my inability to be cautious later. (Preview: I may be coming to terms with it.) But this previous relationship discussion thing, that I am starting to think might be a problem.

I once asked a friend who had been dating someone for a few months about his previous girlfriends, and she said she didn’t know. I was completely shocked.

“How could you not know?” I asked. “Haven’t you talked about your past relationships yet?”

“No,” she said, casually. “It hasn’t come up.”

“Really?” I said. “How could it not have come up by now?”

“Well, the length of time since my last serious boyfriend is not something I’m eager to discuss,” she admitted.

Point taken. And, were I not someone who discusses this–equally unpleasant–personal statistic on a regular basis, on the internet, I would feel the same way.

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